As always, I am not speaking for women in general, only myself. And if you milk cows, haul lobster traps, lead month-long hiking trips or simply don't care, this list does not apply to you. This is aimed at males who do care and are looking for one more female opinion.
Given that, here are some (admittedly random) examples of responses that I have given over the last couple of months on things for men to consider avoiding:
- Being a walking advertisement for any one company: (i.e. L.L. Bean Field Coat; Norwegian Sweater; Bean Boots. Two at most).
- Having every item be brand new. Too shiny looks desperate. Something needs to be scratched up or frayed.
- Evidence of "product" in the hair.
- Jewelry (with the obvious exceptions of watch or wedding band).
- Casual wearing of white socks. Off-white cotton or wool tennis socks work. Tube socks, anklets or quarter socks don't.
- Leather jackets. Stick to waxed cotton or wool.
- Over "high-teching" the gear. It can very quickly look like a costume.
- Polo collars worn up.
- Polo shirts that are not mesh. (And no tipping on the collars.)
- A cuff measurement that is off. (Stick with 1¾").
- Leaving more than one button on an oxford shirt open.
- A crewneck t-shirt visible either under an oxford shirt, or worse, a polo shirt.
- Motif pants or shorts worn with a motif belt.
- With the exception of Gucci loafers, black anything (this also excludes business accessories).
- A summery, light hued ensemble, then combined with a dark, leather braided belt.
- A crewneck sweater paired with a collarless shirt.
- Pleats. No.
- Fragrance. No.
- Denim. No
And then there are "goes without saying": No cargo pants or shorts; short sleeve shirts with ties; dark socks and boat shoes; no mock-neck anything; synthetic athletic wear if you are not working out at that very moment; blended khakis or blended oxfords.