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What Comments to Publish
I am so grateful for so many of the comments I receive. They put the “Daily” in The Daily Prep. Obviously, for whatever reason, this blog has attracted many incredibly smart and knowledgeable people. They extend the value of so many posts immeasurably.
They also have a bit of an editorial impact, as they are one way to figure out what types of posts seem to resonate with people. (Having said that, there are plenty of posts I put up knowing they won’t get much reaction!)
However, while I would never edit anyone's comments, I don’t publish about 15% of the comments I receive (not including spam). Many of these comments are obviously inappropriate, and I can only assume the authors know it when they write them. As they say, 'Never feed the trolls.'
There may be some comments that the authors believe would get published and are not, so here are some reasons why.
I tend to not publish comments that:
- Are strident, nasty, lecturing, grand-standing, racial, dismissive, sexual, or sarcastic in tone.
- Require me to justify some aspect of my life or ask too personal questions. (In the second category, I take no offense at the asking of the question, but I may simply not respond.)
- Unnecessarily restate a previously made and argumentative point, especially off-topic.
- Are personally attacking another guest of the blog, be it another commenter or post subject.
- Directly address an issue that will be featured in an immediately upcoming post.
Despite this, some comments could fall either way. I am more likely to publish a dubious comment if the commenter has commented before, especially if they have built up a history of appreciated comments. I am less likely to publish a dubious comment if the comment is from 'Anonymous'.
The hardest comments to moderate are probably the most cleverly done, where on face value they don’t seem so overtly problematic but they just give me a bad feeling. I have learned over time not to publish those. But it is inevitable and regrettable that I have not published some comments that should have been published, and vice-versa.
Having said all of that, I never mind informed, polite disagreements. In fact, I embrace them. It is how I learn, and the strength of the community.
Accepting Vendor Items for Inclusion in the Blog
I am often offered a lot of “free goods.” I agree to accept only a small percentage of what I am offered. And, of the many items I profile on this blog, only a very small percentage of items I received this way.
My editorial framework is very simple. I only accept what I truly like, would eventually plan to purchase on my own, and happily have and wear. Because I don’t accept advertisements or other compensation, nor do I solicit other business from vendors in this space, I have no motivation to accept something that I don’t really want. (The last thing I want in my house, or on my blog, is filler.) In some cases, I have accepted something, not liked it on closer inspection, and paid for out of my own pocket the cost of shipping it back to the vendor.
I have two additional thoughts here. The first is that there is a federal law that requires bloggers to let the reader know what items were provided by the vendors. I do this through my suppliers list on the front page (and every page) of the blog. Once again, if a blogger shows an item they received from a vendor for free, and they do not declare it, they are breaking a federal law.
Second, accepting very selective vendor items makes this blog, and I believe makes the marketplace, better. It makes this blog better because it allows a (slightly) greater visual variety. I can mix and match real items, activities, and contexts. I can also show more items that are currently for sale, not just classic items from my archives, which some people value.
But I also believe it makes the marketplace better. It is easy for a vendor to write a check for advertisement. It is similarly predictable to engage PR by enticing the traditional press through parties or unspoken promises of future benefits, or flooding the social media world with contrived clip art. In contrast, engaging a niche blogger requires the products to be of real value. Similarly, a small vendor with little or no budget for advertising but relevant offerings can get the word out, which I think is very exciting. Finally, I hope in the back-and-forth of selecting items, I can in some small way let the vendors know which of what they offer is the most valued, at least by one customer.
Blogs are finite by their nature. They are launched, they exist for a while, then they go away. There is no doubt that especially comments and even the ability to work with vendors significantly prolong the life of this blog.
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25 comments:
Thank you for reminding bloggers that they should be doing honest work! I am grateful that you are an example others may only hope to stride towards.
Comment moderation is annoying, but it is necessary with the amount of spam and negativity that exists today.
Chin chin!
I am guessing that one of the blogs I frequent is breaking federal law. Interesting.
Disclosure is key. Sunlight is still the best disinfectant, and trust requires a near-sterile environment in which to breed. All well said, Madam.
Here is a link to the FTC guidelines:
http://www.ftc.gov/opa/2009/10/endortest.shtm
You've created a smart and civil and indeed "gracious" environment here. It is sometimes difficult to gauge the tone of one's comments, especially if one is expressing strong feelings. (The pithy nature of blog comments doesn't always help here as well.) While other blogs are more like rumpus rooms where snarkiness (or worse) is better tolerated, I think it's incumbent upon the writer to be more respectful.
"Don't feed the trolls", my new blogging motto. Thank you Buffy.
Loved "don't feed the trolls"
Good subject as well.
I gathered what your premise for your blog was from the beginning. Your very firm on your opinions and can usually prove your feeling. Your also seem a very honest person. Still not sold on your position for jeans for men - but I am a Californian.
I am grateful for your advice on Burt's Bees shampoo and L L Bean flannel sheets. Even though I live in Laguna Beach, California, it gets very chilly at night. Continued good work. Respectfully, a Lagunie (that's what the artists and hippies used to be called before they were driven out by the high cost of real estate).
Now - breaking all 'don't you dare ask me a none of your business question' rule, I have to ask - Miss Muffy, do you ever wear a dress?
One of the reasons I keep coming back to your blog is because what you write lives up to those words at the top of your page: authenticity, stewardship, and graciousness.
Love the random pictures.
Cheers,
Bitsy
Your approach seems reasonable. Why should you go out of pocket to get to try new items? You donate your time. It hardly seems likely that you will be influenced by getting a free knot bracelet or tote bag. Many bloggers are scrounges whose space basically is for sale, but unless you are one of the greatest con artists of recent times, I don't believe that is true of you. (If it were, we would hear more positive things from you about the big-money vendors who substitute promotion for quality.)
I've been guilty of at least some if not all of the commenting transgressions you describe, from being argumentative to rambling like a pompous blowhard, and you've saved me from myself a couple of times. It's wonderful that you're so diplomatic...it definitely works to our mutual benefit!
This comment may not make it to the blog... I DO have to wonder, sometimes, whether certain comments are not published if they somehow raise an issue which could possibly mar the image which has been created. At the same time, though, I respect Muffy for being so strict in controlling her own privacy. Sometimes, though, I wonder about why certain comments aren't posted if they ask a reasonable question about a frequent blog topic. For instance, Muffy has posted her father's photos many times, and I once asked if her father had been a professional or avocational photographer, and this post was not published. It doesn't seem like a general response would violate too much privacy, and the frequent inclusion of his wonderful photos begs the question.
In any case, I can't quibble with any blogger who fiercely protects her own privacy, even if I think certain comments should have been published.
I am also happy that Muffy addressed the issue of vendor gifts... she has always seemed to endorse only those things she loves and stands behind, and in most cases, has purchased herself. The blog is also thankfully free from (paid)advertisements, when she certainly gets enough traffic that she could make a fair amount of money from advertising. I've read this blog long enough to know that Muffy is a person of strong integrity and it would be highly out of character for her to endorse products she doesn't like. I have to say that I have not read the "suppliers" list to be a list of vendors who have given free wares, but I guess if I thought about it, I would realize that. I think it has this blog covered, although I suppose it could be more explicit. I have wondered when reading some of the manufacturer visit posts whether the custom-made items were provided for free (not that there would be anything wrong with that - Muffy IS providing an excellent service to vendors.)
Muffy - Thank you for publishing that last comment, I assume as an example of the types of comments you usually have to filter!
Thank you for being a grown-up in a world filled with kids,
Toby
P.S. I also vastly prefer that you don't make any money off of your work than I have to skip over a few advertisements. (Just kidding - that has to be the coldest sentiment I have read in weeks!)
I often post anonymously, because I'm a bit lazy about logging in to things, and I like being anonymous.
However, I've worked in online community/social media strategy for over ten years, and I can tell you that not publishing offensive or off-topic/appropriate content is the right course to take.
The comments are part of your content, and blogs which allow inappropriate content in the comments reflect on the owner. This includes news blogs. Free speech applies to people's own blogs or spaces; they are guests in other peoples'.
I think that accepting select items does enhance your blog. I frequent several beauty blogs and the curtain is kind of pulled away when seven different bloggers review the same four shades of this new formula of lipstick. For better or for worse, it colors how I feel about a review, and it isn't for the better.
Why not simply purchase the occasional trinket that catches your eye thus removing all direct contact with the vendor? You obviously have the means and it sounds as though these situations present themselves infrequently.
In any event, I enjoy your blog....keep up the good work!
i think you should forward this post to your "friend" at Unabashedly Prep.
This post is "Unabashedly" fantastic. I always appreciated your sincerity and grace, Ms. Aldrich, spot on as usual.
Y-W-P and you are right. there are few pure voices left where we are not being sold some product by a sneaky marketing sales team. both of your blogs and maxminimus and anaffordablewardrobe are the last trustworhy voices left it seems in the blogs i read.
"Never feed the trolls." I love that philosophy.
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Since Lotuff is listed on your list of suppliers, does that mean that you were given the very lovely navy bag? I'm not trying to be difficult, but I think that in your more recent entries, it has been quite clear when you had been gifted with an item. (When I found your blog, I started reading from the beginning, hence this comment that is a year after the original post.)
@Kim - Yes the navy bag was given to me.
I have egg on my face, having posted a comment several weeks back that I did not regard as snarky, but was not posted (in another thread). I'm sorry I did not read this post first. I have never had much use for trolls, and certainly did not intend to come off as one.
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